From high school boys to senior golf pros the age-old question of man is how to meet women. It's a primordial desire that is constant in these civilized times. And no matter how much cologne you slap on or what kind of car you drive, you can't get lazy-you've got to stay sharp, ahead of the curve, and keep the technique changing.
Even your success in the past does not always parlay into good fortune in the future. A man's style is affected by environment, income and desire. Single, divorced or married (no moralizing please) his game changes over the years.
By the time you reach forty however you need a new approach. Brushing up on your old lines plays like a guy over fifty with a ponytail. You can read all the books on the subject you want or swap information with your pals but after 6 weeks the ladies are hip to the jargon and you come across like oldies radio.
What you need is a gimmick.
A college professor gave me this idea and unfortunately I didn't start using it until my late thirties but it's a captivating icebreaker. The next time you are in the proximity of a woman you want to meet (bar, museum, it doesn't matter) take out a long list of words from your pocket. It should be about the width of receipt paper. Study it for a while and then, with a pen, add another word to the list and study it again. And then turn to her, point to the word and ask:
"Excuse me. Do you know what this word means?"
Their eyes light up. Why? You're asking for help. That's why. This simple move lets them know that you are curious, vulnerable, and unafraid. Whether they know the word or not is immaterial. Their inbred inquisitiveness emerges. They will ask about the list. Tell them it's a list of words you ran across in the last week that you are unsure about. So you carry it around and add to it when the situation arises. You haven't been doing it long. You just want to improve yourself. Tell her you keep a journal at home and you want to get into the habit of reading more. Or you want to be there for a child or a family member who you want to encourage to read.
Women love this. They eat it up and lick the plate clean. I've used it in bars, airports, planes, trains, and art openings. You name it. They are drawn in ready to reveal themselves. It opens them up because you, my friend, have opened up yourself. Take it from there and make it your own. And here is the beautiful part.
You're not lying.
You are a reader. (You're reading this) There is no façade to keep up. No big lie to remember. She's not going to care about how much money you make or what kind of a car you drive because she digs you. If the evening winds up in bed it saves at least twenty minutes of foreplay and you'll have to beat them off with The Oxford English Dictionary.
Put any kind of twist you want on it according to your needs. But don't be obvious. Handle the sacred list shyly. Be a bit sheepish and less of a wolf and you are on your way. If she gets snotty or makes a wisecrack that's someone you don't want to bed anyway and you get to find out from the git. (And doesn't that save time!)
Here are a few words to get you started:
- Parnel
- Ken
- Ubiquitous
- Jimp
- Sacrosanct
- Derogate
- Passel
- Areola
Some are in the dictionary. Some are not. But they are real words. Remember, I'm here to help. And please no wireless palm pilot connecting you to an online dictionary. You are the sensitive guy who love's hard copy. Pen in hand with a fluid swirl is much sexier than poking at a keyboard with a tiny stick.
You're presenting the full package as she gazes at this man who is so so deep.
So get started. A little research and you're on your way. A little alcohol helps as always but I've never gone wrong by playing it straight. Remember, in the jungle it's perseverance and patience.
You don't have to look those up. Do you?
